Posted by Penny on January 8, 2004, at 11:26:20
In reply to Asking your T if he ever fantasizes about you?, posted by tinydancer on January 8, 2004, at 9:36:49
I guess it depends on what you hope to achieve by asking such a question. Unfortunately, I suspect that, as has already been pointed out, he would probably not give you a direct answer but would instead turn it around to get at the real reason for your question.
Truly, if you look at the fact that therapists are human, I'm sure that *some* of them do fantasize about their patients. At the same time, I also feel like those who do probably need to make sure boundaries are clearly defined. Fantasies are private thoughts that we may or may not choose to share with someone else, and I personally see no harm in them, as long as the ones that are potentially detrimental remain just fantasy! At the same time, they probably also provide insight into a bit of the subconscious. That said, I don't think a therapist who has fantasized about a patient should ever admit that to the patient, regardless of whether he/she was directly asked. To me that's too close to crossing some inappropriate boundaries. Just my thoughts.
P
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