Posted by DaisyM on January 3, 2004, at 17:21:36
In reply to Devoid of feeling » DaisyM, posted by Kalamatianos on January 3, 2004, at 12:41:25
<<<if you were not instructed by your parents that adulthood is a whole different thing than childhood, adulthood can be the notion of being overwhelmed. e.g.: expectations are one-way like obligations.
In my life, adulthood WAS my childhood. By Age 11, I was taking care of the entire household, cooking, shopping, cleaning and laundry and I watched my baby sister after school. The only thing I didn't do was pay the bills. I did earn money babysitting for neighbors. I was the most responsible "kid" you ever met. And I, of course, had really high grades. My 2 brothers did the yard work. And I didn't complain, because we all "had responsibilities."
So now, everything feels like my responsibility. I will keep thinking about the difference between obligations and true responsibilities. As in, who are you responsible to and for? Your kids? You spouse? Your employees? Your self?
Food for thought,for sure.
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