Posted by DaisyM on December 27, 2003, at 0:36:42
In reply to Re: You know what might be interesting? » mattdds, posted by Dinah on December 26, 2003, at 23:28:44
We could make it even harder:
My husband is essentially dying. We don't know whether we have 2 years, or 5 or maybe, even 10. What we do know is that it is going to be a slow, ugy, up and down process. We have kids to raise and we need to keep life as normal as possible for them.
I feel sad, angry and overwhelmed. I don't know how I will cope.
I know I am: fortunetelling, catastrophizing, overgeneralizing, guilty of emotional reasoning, and believing that the world should always be fair. I am also minimizing a great deal of the time because it isn't "actually happening to me. I'm not the one who is sick."
Instead of corrective thinking, my Therapist helps me recognize my own sadness and anger, allows it and offers support. Reality testing is helpful for the guilt. As one who strugges with thinking that she should do it all on her own, learning to accept support is a huge part of all of this.
It seems to me that any effective approach must be individualized, both for the situation and the individual.
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