Posted by Karen_kay on December 19, 2003, at 12:10:21
In reply to Re: I wasted time..., posted by Miss Honeychurch on December 19, 2003, at 10:13:52
What, therapists sometimes allow you to not talk about the hard stuff before they leave you for two weeks? Mine is a jerk (how many times have I said that?)!!! He made me talk about a bunch of very hard things and then the last few minutes he was like "And this means that you are really ready to start remembering exactly what happened. We'll continue discussing what happened in two weeks." I was just like "Huh?"... You mean you're not going to be around? But, you promised... Men, I swear...
Penny, it is OK to not just jump into discussing the hard stuff, especially since you'll be without your therapist for a while. It would be a great time to make a plan of action, while you have a break from therapy. Make a commitment to start talking about the hard stuff. I really thought it would be harder than it is. It is hard to talk about it, and it is hard to deal with it. But, it isn't nearly as hard as ignoring it. If you don't deal with it soon, it will come back to bite you. Take it from me! I've dissociated so much that my memory is severly suffering. I mean I have trouble remembering my own age. And as a student, that sucks. I have to work so hard just to get a B in class. I used to make the Dean's list.
So, I urge you to take advantage of the help you have. But, you have to be ready. It took me quite a while to finally be ready to talk aobut things. And I still hesitate a bit. And I still argue with him. For instance, he wants me to close my eyes and describe my dad during the session. And I refuse everytime. I guess it's because I don't want to freak out in front of him. He seems to think he'd be able to control me. Ha, he has more confindence in himself than I do :)Oh, and it might help to start with some of the things you've made progress with from your other therapist. Something smaller (not to say there is a scale or anything) but if you've made some headway with some issues, start there and work your way up...
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