Posted by DaisyM on December 9, 2003, at 17:48:44
In reply to Re: I Babbled/about him being sick, posted by Speaker on December 9, 2003, at 15:40:29
I never thought it about it like that -- having yet another person to take care of. It makes sense though. My Therapist has made me promise NOT to try to take care of him, because for me it is so ingrained and automatic to turn things around so that I'm doing the care taking. I've been pretty good about trying not to do this, although we had a discussion a month or so ago about me worrying about him having a chronic illness (He didn't answer -- but that is another story).
My background is Health education/children with special needs. I specialized for a long time in prenatal/lactation issues then moved to the kids. I love it but it is demanding and stressful. My husand has two serious, chronic illnesses that are taking their toll, both on him physically and on our family. Sometimes he handles it well. Mostly he is angry and bitter, after all he is only 44. So between my work life and my home life, I know too much about medical issues and I'm rapidly studying the mental health aspects of things. I don't know whether this is good or bad but it is how I solve problems -- find the answer in a book!
poster:DaisyM
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