Posted by Karen_kay on December 9, 2003, at 16:59:28
In reply to Re: I Babbled/about him being sick, posted by Speaker on December 9, 2003, at 15:40:29
> DaisyM,
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> For me I think it does make me apprehensive when someone I count on gets sick. I have had a life of caregiving and in therapy I thinks its my turn for someone else to be the caregiver. When they get sick I get scared that I might loose that.<<On a similar note, I too feel that way. Once during a session, my therapist talked about his daughter who had a high fever severaly years ago and had a seizure. I didn't say anything during the session. For about three weeks I had such severe anxiety because I didn't ask if his daughter was ok. For three weeks I felt awful, but I didn't want to ask if she was ok because I was afraid I was being "weird", but it slipped my mind during the session. Finally after about three weeks of feeling so guilty and anxious I just couldn't stand it anymore, I asked about his daughter and he said she was fine. I felt kinda dumb, but I'm no longer anxious about it. I just worry that sometimes his personal life will interfere with me gettting better too. And I wonder if that makes me sound self absorbed, but that's ok sometimes right?
If my therapist had to cancel because he himself were to become ill I am sure I would become full of anxiety. I would wonder how ill he was. If he was ok, if he would still be able to "take care of me during the session, ect.... Is this what you mean???? And, I would be a bit hurt. I still go in when I'm ill, he should too. (I know logically he shouldn't but emotionally it is a different story all together) And the abandonment issues are a completely different story. My automatic thought would be "He's doing this to punish me.....I've done something wrong.." But, my therapist has gone in sick before (and he looks so cute drinking hot chocolate :) I understand what you are saying, I think. I would not only be concerned for his health and safety, but also with my progress as well. As in "Well, what about me???" Almost like a child, with a sick parent. Is this what you mean?
Karen
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