Posted by fallsfall on November 30, 2003, at 10:38:55
In reply to Re: Memories again - too long, don't bother, posted by Dinah on November 29, 2003, at 23:57:50
Of course we will "bother" to read your post. Dinah, you and your happiness and your wellbeing are important to me - and hearing (and hopefully understanding) about your memories allows me to know you better and be a better friend. I hope that will increase your happiness and wellbeing.
Besides that, however, you often have really good insights and information and interesting things to talk about. I wouldn't want to miss out on that.
As for memories, my childhood was very different from yours. All of my memories are idilic - everything was always fine at my house (even when it wasn't). I did have a few disappointments in my life, but probably fewer than "normal" people - because I didn't recognize them as disappointments since I was always told that everything was wonderful, and I believed it.
I am horrified by stories that I hear about things that parents do and say. My first reaction is to say that the rest of the world doesn't view you like that, and the rest of the world cares. But maybe that is just my Pollyanna upbringing that told me that the world was always good. I wonder, would we really want to take off the lenses of our childhood and see the world as it really is? Sometimes my sheltered world is very safe and comfortable. But my world keeps getting tears in it that let the pain in - maybe I don't want to see the real world. ...And I thought I didn't avoid and hide.
Dinah, you are loved and you are worthy and I'm glad that you are who you are and that you are here.
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