Posted by crushedout on November 26, 2003, at 8:46:24
In reply to Re: Crushed, How's It Going?, posted by Rigby on November 26, 2003, at 8:38:50
oh, yeah, i read that article. it was amazing. i think i might try to bring it up in therapy today. but it will be very heavy if i do.the truth is, i've been making good progress on talking about the transference. for example, i told her this week about almost succeeding at something really important, and just as i thought i was going to do it, i realized that the only thing i cared about was telling her about it (not the actual success). see, i tell her stuff like this all the time. plus, she knows i have romantic feelings for her. so it's out there.
i'm just sayin', cuz i think you have the idea that i conceal my feelings from her completely, which i don't at all. i just haven't diven (?) into the *really* hard stuff just yet.
god, i'm so defensive. i wonder what that's about.
> Did you check out the Jellibabe thread "Oh Please Help?" It's relevant and has this link which looks good but I haven't spent much time there yet: http://www.mhweb.org/mustread/articles8.htm
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> > well, if i'm addicted to her, i've already been it for a very long time. but i take your point. as i've said before, i know i need to talk to her more about this than i have (she's already known about it for several months), i've just had too much else going on to get to it! ok, that's partially an excuse cuz i'm really just too scared to talk about it and have all my dreams shattered. but i will i will!
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> > > I'd talk to her. Sounds like you may be becoming addicted to her--I only say this I've been there and I know the feeling (it's not fun.) If she's as good a person and therapist as you say she is, it won't be happening in the romance department with her. Facing that will be hard though--withdrawl city.
> > > > if i don't get to make love to her, i will go insane, i promise you.
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