Posted by Rigby on November 24, 2003, at 20:00:35
In reply to Re: Crushed, How's It Going?, posted by crushedout on November 24, 2003, at 19:15:16
Having had some *huge* crushes and having "been with" several of them I feel like I have sense of how intense they can be--and for how long. Also I've learned that crushes absolutely fade. Reality sets in--invariably. Crushes are definitely drug-like.
> i'm 32 and i've been single for a few months. which i basically like. although if i could marry my t, i'd give it up in a second.I dealt with my crush on my therapist mainly privately--confided a tad bit to my gf but not a lot. And then I talked to my therapist about the attraction. I had several extremely sexy dreams that I wrote down and sent her. It was not easy--not at all--but the crush faded. I used to have to "have" everyone I had a crush on--*everyone*--but not getting someone I want has taught me alot--not painless but I look back and thank gawd I didn't sleep with, yes, my therapist but a few other women too.
> how'd your girlfriend deal with the crush on your t?I think early 30's is a great time. It's a time where at least I felt like there was much to be done--wanted to find a relationship that would last, wanted to make my mark professionally, needed to come out to everyone in my family, needed to decide about kids (didn't have 'em), etc.--I think it's that time where you start feeling like you need to Get Real.
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