Posted by lookdownfish on November 24, 2003, at 5:13:59
In reply to Oh please help!, posted by Jellibabe on November 24, 2003, at 1:34:12
Once every two weeks sounds quite tough. Could you see him more often? You say you've told him how you feel, but what does he say? Does he offer you any hope of resolving it?
All I can do is offer my support and say I'm know exactly how you are feeling. I have a lovely husband and two small children as well as a decent job, and a pretty good lifestyle. I spend a lot of my time and energy obsessing about my therapist. She's female, I'm straight (mostly) making it even more weird. I feel I am totally failing to concentrate on looking after my children, because my mind is wandering off thinking about her all the time.
My therapist's answer to this problem is that I can't expect results overnight and I've got to stick with the process, but it is really hard and it does seem a waste of life. She says it is only by going through this in therapy that you can solve the underlying problems. I have a history of stupid crushes, and she says, quite rightly, if I gave up on therapy the problem would still be there and I would only find someone else to fall for. I seem to have this need to have someone totally take care of me. I can't even say I had a traumatised childhood.
I don't know if you're into reading theory, but I found this one very interesting:
http://www.mhweb.org/mustread/articles8.htm
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