Posted by Susan J on November 14, 2003, at 9:06:48
In reply to Psychiatrist doesn't want me anymore :(, posted by Elle2021 on November 14, 2003, at 1:06:19
Hi, Elle,
>I think he thinks I'm a hopeless case. I'm about ready to cry. Need some encouuragement/advice.
> Elle<<I know that hurts a lot, and I'd take it very personally, too. But I don't think AT ALL that he's saying you are a hopeless case. Therapists are human, too, and he could have tons of other stuff going on in his life that is bugging him, so he gets airheaded about your appointments. Who knows? Maybe his business is going under and holding off the computer guy until your session was over would've been money the therapist didnt' have. NOT saying what he did was right. Not at all. You have every reason to feel hurt and abandoned by someone who is SUPPOSED to help you.
But he may be trying to admit his faults, that he doesn't think he's GOOD ENOUGH FOR YOU. I *do* think that a good therapist is someone who *gets* you, and whose style of therapy is good for you, too. And that takes some finding, in my opinion.
Plus, his *behavior* isn't good for you right now, either.*You* are the one who matters, here. :-) He either needs to be a helpful therapist, or you need to find someone else who's better for you. I don't know who wrote it here, cuz I'm on a different screen as I write this, but I agree with whomever said you need to have a frank discussion with the therapist and clear the air.
Please, you are *not* a hopeless case... :-) Finding a good therapy fit is difficult for everyone, I think....
I hope things get better, and I'll be thinking of ya,
Susan
poster:Susan J
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