Posted by Dinah on November 9, 2003, at 13:28:11
In reply to Re: I wish I could » Dinah, posted by Raindancer on November 9, 2003, at 12:01:28
> - he says that my feelings for him get in the way and create a block. He is happy to write to me when I finish. I really like and trust him but I feel rushed.
Ugh. Ugh. Ugh. You really need a different type of therapist. What a statement! Particularly when you went in to therapy because of the loss of the attachment to your GP. He ought to have anticipated some strong feelings on your part. If you decide that further therapy would be beneficial for you, I would suggest that you ask a lot of questions about their feelings about transference and ability to work with those feelings. You might want to read some books like "Between Therapist and Client" or "How Psychotherapy Really Works".
Or you might feel that you've gone as far as you can with therapy and would like to try to see how you do without it.
At least your therapist isn't opposed to periodic contact. Does that help at least a bit?
I had assumed from what you said (about seeing where he was coming from) that you both recognized you had met the objectives that originally brought you to therapy. I'm sorry that isn't the case.
> I also lost my dad and my brother-in-law recently and my lovely cat is dying. So I guess I'm pretty low anyway. Thanks. All the best.
I'm terribly sorry about the loss of your dad and brother-in-law. And my sweet dog is on treatment for cancer, so I do know how heartbreaking it can be to face losing a beloved companion.
That's a lot to face, Raindancer. If it helps any, please continue to post - both here and on Psycho-Social Babble.
(By the way, I admire your courage in working through the termination phase with your therapist. I've told my therapist that when he tells me his plans to terminate, he has effectively already stopped being my therapist. My way is the cowards way. I admire your way more, and wish I had the courage.)
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