Posted by Adia on October 7, 2003, at 23:45:13
In reply to Re: Please read...Code of Ethics Therapy, posted by HannahW on October 7, 2003, at 23:30:03
Just wanted to say thanks to you Hannah and Dinah...
I've been trying to write a post and I can't find words because I feel so triggered ... silly me! :-( But this makes me so frustrated ..and it triggers so many fears.
I hang on to your words here and to what my T has shown me over the years.
It is dangerous or harmful to imply that a patient's feelings could be wrong or cause their therapist to terminate or abandon them...Just wanted to say thanks Hannah and Dinah :-)
sorry I can't contribute much
to this, it just triggers me too much...Adia.
> Dinah is absolutely right. And so are your colleagues you quoted. Neither of them said that the client should be dismissed for feeling that way. Both of them said that it is a good opportunity to deal with rejection issues, and that it's not the client's feelings that are the problem, it's the therapist's.
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> It is absolutely, positively, in no way, shape, or form, unusual or wrong to feel a strong attraction for your therapist. Someimes it's a sexual attraction, sometimes it's not. But it's usually an intense feeling of love or affection. It is genuinely a golden opporunity to deal with issues on a level which could never otherwise be accessed. I speak from personal experience.
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> I think you're doing a lot of damage here. There are many, many, many schools of therapy that *encourage* transference. If social work isn't one of them, then let that be a warning to us all to stay away from social workers.
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