Posted by Adia on October 7, 2003, at 11:45:08
In reply to Re: Please read...Code of Ethics Therapy » Adia, posted by Penny on October 7, 2003, at 10:49:41
Thank you Penny...
Thanks for explaining this to me...
Thank you for saying my T won't terminate with me because of my feelings for her.
I struggle to convince myself it is okay to tell her my feelings and I always fear she will abandon me if I share my feelings..and I read something like that and I just panic.
But I have absolute trust in her and I trust in my heart that she would never terminate with me because of that, she's always encouraging me to talk or tell her what I feel no matter what.Thank you for your message...It helped me :O)
I am so glad you have such a wonderful therapist. When I read this kind of thing, I feel so fortunate to have found mine too.
Thank you...
Adia.> Don't panic!
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> I'm going to bring up this topic in therapy today, to see what my therapist says. But I have had the 'transference' talk with both my current and former therapists and pdoc, and none of them have terminated as a result! The only circumstance I can think of that would cause a therapist to terminate as a result of transference would be the therapist's inability to handle those feelings (well, the therapist's experience of countertransference and his or her inability to handle *those* feelings). Or if you were to admit feelings for your therapist (I'm thinking romantic) and they were to admit that they felt the same way - that is unethical.
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> But a therapist would have to be cold and unfeeling to turn a client away because of transference feelings - in fact, I suspect that could be grounds for malpractice.
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> Don't panic, Adia! Your therapist isn't going to terminate you b/c you've admitted mother/child feelings toward her. As a skilled practitioner, she's going to take those feelings and use them to help you deal with your issues. That's what she's there for.
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> She sounds like a wonderful therapist. Mine is too.
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> P
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