Posted by Rigby on October 3, 2003, at 23:27:18
In reply to Re: Flowers In Office/More/Opinions Needed » Rigby, posted by fallsfall on October 3, 2003, at 17:27:59
Hi Falls,
I think I will ask her about the flowers. Asking her about the sweater might be beyond me though!
> I think that the correct answer is that you should tell her what you have told us. It is possible that she is behaving inappropriately (and doesn't know it?), or you could be wishingShe absolutely did the flower thing--just as mentioned, not as wished. I hear you though--there have been times when I've wanted her to behave a certain way but in this case she simply *did.*
>that she would behave that way, or you could just be seeing things that aren't there. I don't know. But I think that in all three events, it would be best to talk about it with her.I've found her to be difficult to talk to when it comes to feeling uncomfortable about her. She acts defensively. To the point where I finally said, "Fine. You win. That's it. You're right" at which point she said, "Well, that sounds like a big f-you" and I said, "Well, yeah." And then she got all sullen and introspective and said, "I've never thought I was defensive." And then the next week she came back and apologized for not listening to me. So maybe she'll be better able to "hear" me if/when I confront her.
> That said, I don't know if I could bring it up (and I talk about most anything). You would want to bring it up sooner rather than later - later it might be much too emotional a topic to really explore. Sometimes you can bring up a
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