Posted by fallsfall on October 3, 2003, at 17:27:59
In reply to Flowers In Office/More/Opinions Needed, posted by Rigby on October 3, 2003, at 10:00:08
This is a tough one.
I think that the correct answer is that you should tell her what you have told us. It is possible that she is behaving inappropriately (and doesn't know it?), or you could be wishing that she would behave that way, or you could just be seeing things that aren't there. I don't know. But I think that in all three events, it would be best to talk about it with her.
That said, I don't know if I could bring it up (and I talk about most anything). You would want to bring it up sooner rather than later - later it might be much too emotional a topic to really explore. Sometimes you can bring up a hard topic by talking about the fact that you have a topic to discuss, but you aren't comfortable discussing it. Therapists seem to do well with this - it lets them know you have something on your mind, and you can tell them a little bit at a time, as you feel comfortable. You could say "I'm feeling something strange in our relationship". You could say that you would like to feel special to her (if this is true - I always want to feel special with everyone), but you know that there are boundaries in a theraputic relationship and you don't quite know how to think about all of this. You can always stop giving details, and tell her that you'll bring it up later. She might ask a couple more questions on why you want to stop talking about it, but she should let you change the subject (I would think).
Please let us know how it goes. I'm really trying to understand Transference and Countertransference, but it is pretty confusing. The more I hear, the more I understand.
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