Posted by Adia on September 28, 2003, at 20:47:28
In reply to Using Sessions Better - Need Advice, posted by DaisyM on September 27, 2003, at 16:49:25
Hi...!
Thank you for sharing..
I agree with what fallsfall has shared that the best thing would be to discuss all this with your therapist..and that it does take time...
i too find it really hard to experience feelings during the session and sometimes the moment I walk out of her building I wish so much I could go back and cry or really be there with her...Sometimes I call in between sessions or I try to write so I can stay with the feeling and somehow share it with her...I too feel that it all overwhelms me after the sessions and I wish I could feel all of that while being with her instead of by myself.
I think it's a long process, and it takes time and lots of trust to be able to show and experience emotions while being in session..
I think it would be very valuable for both of you to discuss all this...
Maybe she can help you feel those feelings and that hurt while you are with her...My therapist says I am terrified of feeling when I am with her..and it's like I build this huge wall and I find it hard to be totally present or let myself go...
It seems you have a very good therapist and that he will help you through this process...
It is so hard, but I hang on to baby steps, too....
I wish you the best of luck! let us know how it all goes,
wish I could help! but I struggle with the same...
sending you support,and thank you for sharing here..!
Adia.> Do you think there are stages to the therapy process? I'm trying to figure out why I have such strong reactions after a session...instead of during the actual conversation that took place. Especially when I didn't feel particularly emotional, initially, upon leaving. It is like it sneaks up on you, water boiling over, etc. I keep thinking about it as three different sets of emotions - Pre-session: Fear; During Session: control; After: Train wreck.
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> It might be a trust issue...not that I don't trust my therapist (I've been working with him for 5 months and it is my first time in therapy. But in sharing things I don't usually share, or even allow myself to dwell on, I keep wondering if I'm trying to tell myself that I shouldn't be doing this. It's like I don't trust myself. And I struggle with the aftermath train wreck because it is painful...and makes no intellectual sense to me.
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> *sigh* Gosh, this is hard. Self-imposed torture. I know I have to "go through it" to come out on the other side...but REALLY, someone should write down all the answers in a book somewhere. Of course, the fact that I'm not really sure what the question is could be a problem, but still! :)
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> I'd appreciate advise as to how (I don't even know if it is possible) to have the train wreck happen during the session, when help is readily available, instead of after.
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