Posted by fallsfall on September 27, 2003, at 17:58:17
In reply to Using Sessions Better - Need Advice, posted by DaisyM on September 27, 2003, at 16:49:25
Good question!
I find that during the session I tend to control, also. And after the session things can be very difficult.
I think that the best way to go about fixing this is to talk to your therapist and tell him exactly what is going on. Can you tell during the session when you are exerting control? If you can't, then maybe if you record what the train wreck is like your therapist might be able to relate it back to things said in the session. I think it will need to be a joint effort.
I had this problem with my previous therapist, but I didn't really understand what was happening until I left her. I have less fear in my sessions now because I am less invested in my new therapist, so I am less afraid of doing the wrong thing.
Therapists usually love to talk about stuff like this because it is about the relationship between the two of you. That gives them a close up look at how you interact with other people.
Good luck! And when you find the answer, could you let the rest of us know?
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