Posted by Penny on September 8, 2003, at 7:35:03
In reply to What is your theory of change?, posted by Dinah on September 7, 2003, at 13:23:45
For me, I can't be pushed really either. My therapist refers to me as a sensitive person, and even when she's made comments that left me feeling hurt (which has only happened one or two times in the 9 months I've been seeing her), she's picked up on it and apologized, as she never says anything to me that she thinks might make me feel worse. She's always very supportive and does let me move at my own pace. Not that she never tells it like it is, but she does it in a caring way, not in a 'kick in the pants' kind of way. That wouldn't work for me.
In fact, when I was in the hospital, a couple of the nurses tried that 'kick in the pants' approach - telling me what I was doing wrong and what I needed to do to change that, and it just hurt and made me that much more suicidal. If I feel pushed, criticized, stressed, whatever, it just doesn't help matters in the least.
I can certainly see that in you.
P
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