Posted by Dinah on September 7, 2003, at 13:23:45
My therapist says that his theory is that therapists provide a safe space, a holding environment, and acceptance. But that the other part of their jobs is to give a push where needed, a kick in the pants. And he expressed a sort of frustration that the latter doesn't seem to work with me. That when he pushes I push back. And that he therefore has to let me move at my own pace.
I prefer to think that I dig in my heels when pushed. But that I will do my very best to change when I'm accepted as I am. When he expresses fondness or caring for me, I'll do my best to make him happy. I can be easily led by love, but I can't be prodded an inch.
I know that some of my friends have told me things their therapists said that would have had me doing just the opposite of what they intended, or storming out. But they say that they like a bit of a prod. Tough truthfulness.
I was wondering what others thought. What gets you to change as your therapist would like in therapy? What causes you to get contrary?
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