Posted by crushedout on September 2, 2003, at 13:19:55
In reply to I Agree With Dinah, posted by Rigby on September 2, 2003, at 12:36:41
I dunno. I really think she's an excellent therapist, and fairly experienced (although I suppose I've never asked her really how long she's been practicing -- my guess is around 8 years -- I should ask her). But she still may have made a mistake telling me that stuff. I really don't want to see anyone else or run for the hills. I love her, of course. As a therapist, and as an idealized object. Both. She's helped me SO much.I'm bi, I guess. I haven't dated a man in a really long time, though, so I'm used to identifying as lesbian. My therapist is married to a man, so I assume she basically identifies as straight, but she feels to me like someone who understands her (latent or not so latent) bisexuality.
> If she's confessing sexual energy coming from her then it's dicey. There is really no good reason for her to divulge this one or way or the other. If she says "Yes" she gets your hopes up (she's not allowed to be sexual with a client) and if she says "No" you feel rejected. She's supposed to explore your feelings with you and not aknowledge one way or the other how she feels.
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> I felt energy with my therapist too. The most she said was that I was special, that she was closer to me than her other clients and a few times she's mentioned something about "beauty" and stuff. All probably pushing the line and she's apologized for it. If yours is actually coming out and admitting sexual energy, etc. then you've got either an inexperienced therapist and/or not a very competent one.
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> Just curious: are you both gay? In my situation I'm lesbian, my therapist is bi-sexual.
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> I also think Dinah's recc on the book is great--it'll help you figure things out and make you run for the hills in terms of exploring a relationship outside of therapy!
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> Rigby
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