Posted by Rigby on September 2, 2003, at 10:14:32
In reply to Re: therapist revelations, posted by Newcomer on September 1, 2003, at 10:47:21
Hi There,
Have never heard of the Hoffman project. But Fallsfall I think recommended a book to me which I just finished reading (did it in a couple of sessions this weekend) called In Session by Deborah Lott (you can get it used on Amazon for a few bucks.) It truly demystifies all these transference feelings and what I found amazing is that so many of us go into therapy clueless about transference and when we get slammed with it we're freaked out (we're in love with our therapists--we're freaking out, no it's true love--can't anyone believe us??) and this book shows us how common that is. It also discusses what happens if we take the therapy-love outside of the therapist's office--it's an interesting exercise to think about what happens *after* that first kiss or first sexual encounter with the therapist--then what? They've got kids maybe to deal with, a partner who's pissed off, maybe they've got horrible breath and terrible habits and traits we cannot stand. I mean it all gets really real and the odds of therapy-love holding up to anything outside of the room are very, very slim. Which kinda forces us to look at why we feel we're in love with or obsessed w/ this person--and the focus comes back to us. If a therapist doesn't handle transference well then it's a problem, of course. But if you read this book you'll become a lot more enlightened--I highly recommend it and thank Fallsfall for recommending it to me.
Hugs,
Rigby
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