Posted by Kyp on August 5, 2003, at 10:00:58
In reply to Borderline Personality and domestic abuse, posted by Alleecat64 on August 5, 2003, at 2:19:18
My son has BPD and it has been difficult, but maintaining boundaries helps a lot. No means no and even if it is irrational for him, I have to protect myself. Sometimes I leave the room or lock myself in my room to separate myself. He has to learn I care enough about me to not allow abuse from him. He gets to feeling abandoned and it is sad, but he has to learn to alter his behavior. Actually he is 16 and has other bipolar issues and just this last month I took him to a boarding school for kids with mental illness and they are really working with him and not intstitutionalizing him. Hopefully they will get it across to him. He does not like it there, but he was not cooperating, he was isolating and unable to attend school.He can be directed as to proper behavior in society and to feel beter in his own skin with the guidance of the professional staff.
My suggestion for you is distance yourself just enough to protect you. Do you really like being around this person? Is it worth the energy? If so, limit your contact to small pockets of time and then say no when they want more. If they become physical, leave and say you will return when you feel safe to be around them.
People of all mentalities need to learn to respect other peole's boundaries and be responsible for their behavior. Sometimes they can utilize meds to help themselves be able to do that. Getting therapy would be great. Consider volunteering to go with them once to show them it is safe and helpful ???
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