Posted by fallsfall on July 26, 2003, at 9:43:06
In reply to Re: No no, I didn't send it., posted by Morgen on July 25, 2003, at 23:10:58
During a transference crisis (after struggling for months with my therapist), I saw my pdoc and talked about it. That was marginally helpful. Then as it got worse I went to see an old group therapist (without telling my regular therapist). The group therapist was VERY helpful. She calmed me down, let me know that it wasn't an unusual situation and that these things often worked out just fine, and identified a theme for me. That meant that I could concentrate on working on the theme and wasn't so overwhelmed. She was happy to see me once, but told me that if I wanted to see her again that I would have to have my therapist's permission. This group therapist was originally a referral from my regular therapist - I saw them at the same time (years ago) - one for individual, one for group. When I saw my regular therapist I told her that I had seen the group therapist (and the pdoc). She gave me permission to see either one again if I wanted.
In general, I think you have to work transference things out with your therapist, but getting a second perspective is sometimes helpful. Could you ask you therapist to refer you to someone for that second perspective? (I was most afraid that my therapist would think I was going "over her head", or trying to find someone who would join with me in "ganging up" on her.)
I guess I would suggest that you tell your therapist that you need to talk to someone who has some distance from the problem. Have her suggest someone, or you suggest someone.
Good luck. This is not fun.
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