Posted by Dinah on May 27, 2003, at 8:42:26
In reply to Re: DBT combines the two even more » Dinah, posted by fallsfall on May 27, 2003, at 7:24:20
What a shame indeed! (smile)
It sounds like you have a gem there! My therapist just wouldn't do that. Not even my very strong hints about the lack of a very valuable service in the area, and the financial wisdom of someone trying to fill it, was motivation enough for him. I have to admit, though, that this wouldn't be included in the areas he would prefer to specialize in. I think he would prefer to concentrate on - ok don't die here - corporate and motivational psychology, teambuilding, etc. Nonetheless, whatever his goals are, he is good at what he does with me. I'm just not sure he wants a practice full of me's.
I think it's fabulous that your therapist was so enthusiastic about learning more. I long ago gave up on the idea of my therapist reading anything outside of session. There was one book that was such an ah-hah experience for me, that so perfectly summed up what I was feeling, that I offered to pay him to read a specific part of the book. He agreed, I gave him my copy, and he mentioned once that he had read the first few pages. Then nothing more was said about it, I never got my book back, etc. I wonder if him telling me that he had read a few pages was supposed to be a hint for me to ask him how much I owed him so far. Geesh, I'm a cynic.
I had rather anticipated this outcome, so I had immediately ordered a replacement book for myself. I wonder if I should highlight the parts that particularly moved me and read them outloud at a few sessions. But I'm afraid that will remind him that he never read the book, and I don't want to do that. There is something so deeply humiliating about asking someone to do something they aren't willing to do. Or at least there is for me. I just want the whole subject to go away and I'll never suggest that he read something again.
You've got a real winner there, Fallsfall. I'm glad you're in the process of working things out with her.
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