Posted by Dinah on March 3, 2003, at 18:36:26
In reply to Re: My literal mind can't grasp this. » Dinah, posted by Ilene on March 2, 2003, at 23:06:53
> In your earlier post your therapist says, "You are choosing to be upset about this and you can make a different choice." But now he says he is angry at you. Is he unable to follow his own advice or is he *choosing* to be angry?
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> --I.I think he really would say that. That he was choosing to be angry. But I'm not sure if he would follow through on all the ramifications. He does totally take responsibility for his feelings though and says I don't make him feel anything. I have trouble understanding that too. If I do something and he gets angry with it, then I am obviously (to me) at least partly responsible for my anger. And when I'm angry with him he totally changes course and acknowledges that he has done something to "make" me angry.
I am no good at paradox.
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