Posted by IsoM on March 1, 2003, at 12:59:36
In reply to Re: My literal mind can't grasp this. » IsoM, posted by Dinah on March 1, 2003, at 2:40:00
See? I think of something literally like you & then you say "I could choose my attitude which might change me feelings before they arise" & I realise that - hey! that's another way of looking at it entirely. That's why I love getting people's feedback. It gives me something to think about that I didn' before.
Anyway, what you said makes good sense. I now can see if you're anticipating someone's comments to be negative (probably from past experiences with a certain person OR from a string of negative things said to you recently), it'll cloud anything said to you for the next while. Same with experiences that's happened recently. A string of negative experiences will make you mistrust something positive happening. You'll be waiting for the next shoe to fall, so to speak.
I know it's easier to say than do, mmost good ideas are. But if you can take each comment, each event as something commpletely separate, you can "choose how your attitude" about it. How's that sound?
This is how I've slowly developed my personal philosophy/outlook on life over the years - by listening to others & incorporating sensible advice & experiences into it.
But personally, I hate it when someone uses too many trite sayings. I could see myself saying to your therapist "enough of the cute sayings! Put it in your own words".
I'm feeling better from a combo of things - more sunshine & warm weather (after all this is close to Vancouver), eating better, sleeping gobs & GOBS, & yes, our own home. Thanks for asking. I'm a basically lazy person (I like to call myself sensible & body efficient ^_^ ) so I've been leting my body tell me what's needed.
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