Posted by Eilidh on October 17, 2002, at 16:34:21
In reply to What Am I Doing Wrong? - I Turn People Off, posted by WorryGirl on October 16, 2002, at 14:17:21
Hi WorryGirl,
Eddie is quite correct re it being "Their loss", but I know that is of little consolation if you yearn to make friends.
You mentioned you had seen a therapist before. Did he/she give you any feedback re your social skills, or try to role play any of this with you?
If not,it may be worthwhile returning to this therapist, or another, to discuss this issue. You would then be able to focus on specific areas which you could perhaps improve upon when interacting with others ( and to be quite honest I'm sure we could all improve our interpersonal relationships to some extent). The therapist should be able to refer you to a group which is suited to you and your needs, which would help protect you from initially choosing a group which is not too helpful for you.
It may also be the fact that your social skills are fine, but that you are trying a little too hard to be liked .This can be a little off-putting to others. Maybe you could look at the places you are meeting people - they may not be places where others would normally be expecting to form friendships.
I wish you luck
Eilidh
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