Posted by Dinah on August 1, 2002, at 0:06:50
In reply to Having difficulty with shrink (my problem), posted by judy1 on July 31, 2002, at 22:40:19
I think it could be many things Judy. Since you specified that it was a man, perhaps you have the expectation that men will hurt you or let you down. Or maybe he looks a bit like an incompetent boob from your past.
Or if you were like me, maybe you just idealize him somewhat and get angry when he falls short of what you think he is. I know I get along much better with my therapist now that I've lowered my estimation of his intelligence and sensitivity, and therefore lowered my expectations.
I think the only way to try to get a handle on what's happening is to talk it out. So don't cancel that therapy appointment. :) You have something to talk about.
Good luck with it. If I remember correctly you've only been with this doctor a few years? I'm over seven years with my therapist now and things like this still crop up from time to time. But much less often now, especially since I have come to be completely open with him and bring things up at least by the next session rather than letting them fester.
poster:Dinah
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