Posted by habbyshabit on July 11, 2003, at 17:04:27
In reply to re: Dear Arlon ... and everyone! » Mercury, posted by lil' jimi on July 10, 2003, at 16:07:06
I need to get to the grocery store (busy,busy) but took the time to read all your posts, and mercury's. Please know my heart is with you in your grief. My Mother died last June 19, and I just celebrated her Hebrew Yahrzeit on July 9th. My father's Hebrew Yahrzeit falls on July 22nd this year ( corresponding to the Hebrew calender ), which is my birthday. His regular calendar death was July 17. In a way, I celebrate their lives, and remember their deaths, twice each year. My Dad died when I was 5. So I am an orhpan too!
What I know about the grieving process, in my experience, is that it comes in waves. I had times when the 'go' button wouldn't turn on. I just couldn't motivate to do anything much at all. A lot of grieving does feel very much like depression, but it's really GRIEVING! I'm not sure if you have a history of depression or not.
I know from my own experience major, clinical depression and I could feel the similarities and differences as I moved through the loss of my Mom last year. In the Jewish Tradition, they expect the grieving process to last at least a year. They don't even erect a headstone on the grave until the first anniversary of the death. At least the orthodox don't.
I just wanted to respond right away to your incredible loss and let you know that I empathize with the sense of void and tragedy that losing beloved parents brings.
That was a great recap of your Buddhist awakening and I know Arlon will have a response. I just have to find ( make ) the time for them to address your situation. I am deeply honored that you would request their views.
Did you know that the Dalai Lama has a 'state medium'? That there has always been one in the Galupa tradition and that all the Dalai Lamas have consulted them? Interesting, no?
Much Love,
Habby
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