Posted by kiwiredbeach on November 22, 2006, at 2:59:48
In reply to Re: Anxiety Suffering...Need Your Help, PLEASE!, posted by teejay on November 21, 2006, at 20:06:28
Teejay very interesting replyCan you tell me what you did to lose your fear of the fear. I totaly believe you that this is important. What steps or processes did you go through to get to this stage...did you do cbt or breathing was it a book
> Janet, what you really need to do is calm down!
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> Yep, I know its an almost impossible task with mega anxiety, I know I designed the T-shirt, but you really have to try.
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> The thing with anxiety (and it took me years to learn and grasp this) is its the fear of the fear which really cranks up the level of anxiety.
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> I have horrible obsessive repetative thoughts which leave me feeling dirty and tainted about myself and would crank my anxiety up to a whole new level, but since I've managed to teach myself that these thoughts are no more than a symptom of my illness and that thoughts in themselves can't hurt me, my anxiety levels have eased somewhat.
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> You see, as an anxiety sufferer, the fear will always be there, but its what you do with that fear that determines whether the anxiety will remain bearable or will ratchet itself up to higher and higher levels.
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> I've had (and still get) the weepy can't cope type feelings too (and i'm a grown bloke!). You have to really think about what you are fearful of and then when in that situation assess if the reality matched your perception of it. You'll normally find that you've worked yourself into a tizzy over nothing and will feel angry that you worried so much befoire the fact. You ned to really remember this so next time you can dismiss the worry and say to yourself ' no pointin worrying, I will worry when I get there', and when you get there you invariably just deal with things without the time to worry.
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> Sorry, I'm waffling, but hope this helps at least a bit.
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> TJ
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