Posted by Dinah on August 9, 2013, at 12:37:18
In reply to You are too funny (nm) » Dr. Bob, posted by 10derheart on August 8, 2013, at 16:11:19
That this *is* Dr. Bob? It's no use expecting him to suddenly communicate in a different manner, any more than it is any use for us to expect Lou to communicate in a different manner.
I think he's doing his best, in all these comparisons of our feelings and Lou's feelings, to make us feel some sort of brotherhood with Lou. My therapist wouldn't have been so... consistent... with his message in the face of evidence that it wasn't achieving his desired goal. But then my therapist also wouldn't have had the.... perseverance.... to continue to host Babble in the face of all the difficulties.
Maybe Dr. Bob is making the wrong comparison. Dr. Bob and Lou both are very consistent. Even when it is not apparent that their message is being received in the manner it is intended. (And no, they aren't the same person. There is abundant proof otherwise.) I won't say they won't change, because obviously Dr. Bob has made a sea change in his orthodoxy, and one I don't at all understand. But change won't be from arguments from us, no matter how convincing, but rather from a higher power - divine or in terms of psychological theory.
I might wish that Dr. Bob would clarify the civility rules as they currently stand, because they bear no relation to what I understood from years of studying law and court decisions, so to speak. I might wish that Dr. Bob made different civility decisions (I often have). I might even wish that Dr. Bob communicated in cyberspace the way he communicates in person. But all I can *do* to change anything is to distance myself when I can't like what is happening. Other people may be able to achieve a wider range of emotional response.
Butting my head against the solid rock of Bob and expecting anything but a sore head hurts no one but me.
Have no hope. Hope hurts.
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