Posted by Dinah on July 5, 2013, at 16:01:04
In reply to Re: posters who could use support, posted by Dr. Bob on July 5, 2013, at 15:28:46
> What makes this rewarding for me is "wins" like posters finding that they're stronger than they thought.
So you find it rewarding that a poster here and there are strong enough to continue posting in the face of the pain they receive at your website? Well...
I don't see it as a "win" for the website though, other than of course the site is better off than if the poster left. It's more a "win" for the poster. What did you have to do with it? Do you feel pride in it?
> I believe I'm hearing posters say it's tough to keep going with Lou around. I wonder what would make this rewarding for them.
>I believe I hear you saying they are going to have to continue to see Lou continue posting as he is currently posting because you have no intention of enforcing rules on accusations and exaggerations and overgeneralizations? That they're going to have to learn to find intrinsic rewards in continuing to battle Lou? Thank you for making that clear. That makes me feel sad.
> Posters can focus on:
>
> 1. posters who could use support
> 2. Lou
> 3. me
>
> Which is more likely to be effective? Rewarding?Apparently the latter two are totally ineffective. I generally have been choosing
4.) things in life other than Babble. I'm rather proud of my strength in being able to do that more and more. You are free to take pride in that if you wish, as you certainly have played a role in giving me that strength. I spent nearly a month without looking at the site!! Congratulations on generating that strength in me.
> I understand feeling frustrated, or resentful, or even angry, at what causes hurt.
>
> BobWhy resentful? Frustrated and angry I understand.
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