Posted by Lou Pilder on January 8, 2013, at 15:50:35 [reposted on January 8, 2013, at 17:25:29 | original URL]
In reply to Re: In memory of Maxime, posted by 10derheart on January 8, 2013, at 1:39:38
> Phillipa,
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> Don't you think that if Dr. Bob wanted to share such sensitive and private details, he probably would have done so in his initial post? He normally says what he has carefully decided to say, especially in matters as serious as a poster's death, and then no more.
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> Do you really imagine he will answer questions about this here? I don't.
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> Why don't you email him if you have questions? I don't mean to be difficult or to pick on you, but Dr. Bob asked if we could remember and say goodbye, not discuss this aspect.
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> I find these questions jarring to read here.
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> 10,
You wrote the above. What you have posted to Phillipa is known in the world of psychology as a self-rightious discharge of aggression toward her. She may not see it that way, and you also may not see it that way. But look at what you have done.
You have posted what could lead phillipa to feel accused and/or put down. Your post attacks her humanity, for she was only asking for where she could also find out if Mr Hsiung would reveal such. This could be an obituary or some other record that Phillipa could then access for her own reason(s), which could be good reasons, and you have posted what could cast her in a false light, defaming her and this is not a sound mental-health practice.
Yet today, Mr Hsiung allows you to post the hostility and what is like a scolding in public.
One can not judge Phillipa's motives in what she requested. And to do so is a flagrent disregard for her human rights.
It is said that one can not post about another's post here in critiscism. Yet today, Mr Hsiung allows you to do just that. But I say to you, judge not, that you not be judged. And why behold you the mote that is in another member's eye, but consider not the beam in your own eye? First cast out the beam out of your own eye and then shall you see clearly to cast out the mote out of another's eye.
Phillipa, I'm sorry if you felt hurt.
Lou
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