Posted by muffled on December 15, 2009, at 22:17:07
In reply to Re: what 'sorry' is about, posted by Dr. Bob on December 15, 2009, at 21:48:44
> > When I have a disagreement w/my T, we talk it thru, she doesn't banish me from her office...
>
> I'm not TL's T, however.*no, but you missed the part about her being your equal...
You missed the part about being a bully...> > Occassionally I do lecture them about what 'sorry' is about, but there is not point in doing it while they all agitated cuz they won't listen. So I lecture them later.(and they still barely listen-but I TRY!)
> > Also, depending on what happened, I'll talk to them about appropriate behaviour and WHY. I don't know that my son 'gets' it (hmmm, reminds me of Bob...) but I try.
>
> I try, too.*I honestly think you do, which is why I still talk to you.
One last thot...my kids sometime suss me pretty bad.
Do I wash their mouths out w/soap?
Do I banish them from my house?
Do I hit them?No.
I TALK to them.
I tell them I love them no matter what.
I tell them it hurts me when they talk to me like that.
Yeah, sometimes I blow and yell, but I apologize to them.
But I DO NOT make them feel like they so horrible that they must be banished :( ostracized cuz they so horrible and bad.
I am being slightly triggered.
I will go now.
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