Posted by muffled on December 15, 2009, at 15:39:47
In reply to Re: being blocked again, posted by Dr. Bob on December 15, 2009, at 15:20:16
"But I do wonder if posters sometimes underestimate how much they can influence each other. I've seen it happen, it's part of support and education."
For me its about respecting what TL is trying to say and do.
I don't wish to 'influence' her. Mostly I agree w/her LOL! I respect what she is trying so hard to say and do. That she is making an effort to TRY. That she has put much thot into what she has written, and unsuprizingly...she is getting frustrated.
To me, thats OK and understandable. Now IF she WANTS to reword, that is HER choice to do. She may feel some remorse and wish to say something, or she may still feel that what she said is bang on. That is HER choice.
Its like when one of my kids wacks a sibling. I say to them, say your sorry. They say sorry. ROFL, they are so NOT sorry and both they AND their sib knows they not. They just saying sorry to shut me up! But see, here people are trying to make a point, this is admin board, not psychology, so gonna be more plain speaking. This is trying to be AUTHENTIC communication, not b*llsh*t.
So saying sorry for something you genuinely felt and were trying to communicate MUST come from whoever SAID it, not cuz I 'influence' them too. We are adults here, not children.(though yes, I can only agree that we adults often act like children!)But in this case I think its very adult communication.
yeeshhh, why I bother..??
I need to get back to work.
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