Posted by Dinah on November 2, 2009, at 14:34:32
In reply to Re: another cycle, posted by Dr. Bob on November 2, 2009, at 14:13:19
My middle school teachers didn't tell me that they didn't know who did things, but they did tell me that if I just didn't react, they'd leave me alone. It may be a true statement, but it never has managed to be helpful to me.
And partnerships don't have to have cycles like this. The partners can agree to rules of engagement. The behaviors that lead to these cycles, on both sides, is a choice. But it's not a choice that can be made unilaterally. It is an agreement, a mutual choice.
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