Posted by Dr. Bob on August 19, 2009, at 11:22:25
In reply to Re: Idealizing, posted by alexandra_k on August 19, 2009, at 0:22:56
> > Would you say of another poster here that their idea or behavior was 'stupid' if you thought they were big enough to look after themselves?
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> No, that is not it.If you did think another poster's idea or behavior was stupid, what you would say to them?
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> > Yes, it's up to me to decide on the rules here. How would it make you feel to abide by them?
> If that is The Way Things Are then fine. But at least be honest about that fact.
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> And be honest about the fact that this simply isn't negotiable.The way things are here is I decide on the rules. And on what's negotiable.
> he has too much power, I think.
> One could of course say 'its his site' - but isn't this to acknowledge the unfairness of the situation and just basically advocate... sucking up the unfairness?
In what way do you see the situation as unfair?
It sounds like the answer, at least in part, to my earlier question is that abiding by the rules here would make you feel powerless and subservient.
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> Yeah, I choose what I will and will not post here, I am responsible for what I say.
> But Bob is responsible for what he does and doesn't post here. He is responsible for the way he interprets things and for his blocking behavior.Exactly, we each have the power to choose, and are responsible for, what we do. You chose to post and I choose to interpret as uncivil:
> the stupid rules
> your little chosen circle of idealizers
> don't post to me
> Willful misunderstanding
You're responsible for your posts and I'm responsible for my interpretations. And you choose whether to apologize or rephrase, and are responsible for your choice. And I choose whether to block you, and am responsible for my choice.
Thanks, Nadezda, muffled, Dinah, and Partlycloudy, for trying to help.
Bob
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