Posted by Dr. Bob on April 29, 2009, at 9:13:57
In reply to Re: PWD Yet Again ) Dr. Bob, posted by Kath on April 26, 2009, at 16:21:29
> > There does seem to be this persistent idea that I have all the power and posters have none.
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> Could you please tell me what power we have with the exception of leaving?
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> rskYou do have the power of flight. And the power to fight.
You also have the power to show others how they might interpret things more charitably, to encourage them to apologize, and to suggest they not address those they can't get along with. You have the power to help them avoid being blocked. And of course you have the power to apologize yourself.
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> So we have this thing in the U.S. military called an "amnesty box". When you are departing from a war zone and have illegal paraphenelia, before you have to go through search points at the Port, you can place it in the box and the illegal act is ignored. Stuff like bomb shells, stuff from Sadaam's palaces, Iraqi weapons, other stuff people take as souveniers, drugs--anything.
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> People will look the other way--in terms of the law--if a person had the sensibility to discard what they knew they shouldn't have brought back. It encourages trust and good will. It allows reflection. It fosters integrity-doing the right thing.
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> So how about having a PB amnesty box--forgive and unblock everyone - and start over.
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> garnet71Exactly! And here we have an "apology box". When you post something uncivil, you can dissociate yourself from it (place it in the box) by apologizing. It may not necessarily be forgiven, depending on who you've been uncivil to, but as you say, it fosters trust, good will, reflection, and integrity.
But it depends on having the sensibility to "discard" what's uncivil. Soldiers aren't forgiven if they keep paraphernalia that's against the rules.
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> > Dr. Bob:
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> > That was a very compassionate act.
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> > I can't remember your ever attempting to allow someone to heal in such a way as to actually offer a potentially insightful and helpful suggestion.
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> > SLS
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> Dr. Bob - that also struck me - that you are aware of verne's struggle & your post seemed like you were seeing Verne as a real human being with problems, feelings, etc......rather than you only being the 'rules' guy. It's not the first time I've seen you post like that & when you do, I really appreciate it.
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> KathThanks, I appreciate your support!
Bob
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