Posted by gardenergirl on January 21, 2009, at 22:24:06
In reply to a recent sequence..., posted by twinleaf on January 21, 2009, at 13:52:30
> ...(all the more shocking because it was made by a mental health professional). ...There can be a degree of hurt in posted comments which simply cannot be rectified or atoned for in notifications.
> December [22] Gardenergirl: (to me) "perhaps you might benefit from doing work on cognitive distortion."
Twinleaf, I apologize to you for that comment. Though I truly didn't intend for it to be hurtful, I can see how it was, and I regret causing you pain. Looking at it now, I can see that it came from a frustrated place in me and seems more likely to be about trying to alleviate my own frustration versus anyone else's feelings.
If I had the opportunity for a mulligan, I might instead merely post a list of common cognitive biases/distortions and possibly how to challenge them, as in the material on these two pages: http://www.mentalhelp.net/poc/view_doc.php?type=doc&id=9747&cn=353 and
http://www.mentalhelp.net/poc/view_doc.php?type=doc&id=9748&cn=353
That approach leaves it up to you and/or anyone else reading to think it relevant or not and to do with that information what they will.As to your statement about a post coming from a "mental health professional", my very first thought was that it isn't relevant. Then I realized that any label one applies to another can come with a set of expectations and/or assumptions about behavior and intentions related to the label. How much one believes in those expectations/assumptions can vary certainly, so perhaps it could be relevant, at least in as far as feeling shocked by a message. On the other hand, I think that a mental health professional might be more more likely to be familiar with the construct of congntive biases/distortions and thus might be more likely to bring it up as a hypothesis than someone who has not been exposed to the construct. At any rate, all of that seems secondary, at least to me, to whether or not the label/assumption is even accurate, which is personal information I no longer disclose on this site.
Regards,
gg
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