Posted by Lou Pilder on August 11, 2008, at 20:13:53
In reply to Please be civil/follow site guidelines » Dena, posted by Deputy 10derHeart on August 10, 2008, at 1:08:10
> > Here, we have a poster using sarcasm
> > and so this is the lash-out against Lou.
> > Then, this, even worse post,
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> Please don't post anything that could lead others to feel accused or put down, or jump to conclusions about others, and please follow site guidelines regarding reporting posts you find objectionable. Please use the Notification system to do that instead of posting about them here.
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> > While we do not need to attack people, we must point out when someone's actions are harmful.
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> While it is, of course, perfectly fine to feel you must point certain things out, here on Babble Dr. Bob asks we do it within the current civility guidelines. Even when we are feeling really strongly about something, and even when we are feeling strongly that Dr. Bob made mistakes in the past, etc. The idea being, two wrongs don't make a right...
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> It may also help to remember when reading older threads, that the civility guidelines have changed re: pointing out uncivil posts publicly, asking others not to post to you publicly, etc.
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> If you or others have questions about this or about posting policies in general, or are interested in alternate ways of expressing yourself, please see the FAQ: http://www.dr-bob.org/babble/faq.html#civil
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> Follow ups regarding these issues should be directed to Admin, and should of course, be civil. Dr. Bob has oversight over deputy decisions, and he may choose a different action.
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> Respectfully,
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> --10derHeart, acting as deputy for Dr. BobDeputy 10derHeart for Mr. Hsiung,
In regards to the policy to direct follow-ups here on the administration board to discuss rationales, rules, policy and such, I am unsure as to what you are wanting to mean in your post here. If you could clarify the following concerning that you wrote,{...please don't post anything that could lead others to feel accused or put down, or jump to conclusions about others...}, then I could have the opportunity to respond accordingly.
A.Who are the others that could feel accused or put down in what you cited as the basis for writing that? I see my name there and I do not feel accused or put down by what the poster wrote that you cited here.
B. Of the three things that you cited that the member posted, are all three of them statements that could cause the people that you identified in (A) above to feel accused or put down? If not, which are the one or ones that you are referring to or something else?
C.Could you post here your criteria (rationale) that you used as to what constitutes a statement that could or could not lead one to feel put down?
D. The generally accepted meaning of to {accuse} is to {blame}. If you agree with that definition of {accused}, and if there is something in the statments that you cited that accuses, could you post here who it accuses and what the person is being blamed {accused} for?
E. If there are statements in what you cited that {jump to a conclusion about others, could you post here who the others are and what conclusion was jumped to? This could also bring into what is meant by {jumped}, so if that is part of your reply to me, could you also list the criteria that you use to determine if a conclusion was jumped to or not?
Lou
poster:Lou Pilder
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