Posted by Sad Sara on November 5, 2004, at 16:27:59
In reply to Re: blocked - is this fair?, posted by Dr. Bob on November 5, 2004, at 14:34:11
> > > I saw his attack towards this woman as very harsh and cruel
> >
> > CC was explaining his reaction.
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> I'm sorry if I seem harsh, too, but I'd like explanations also to be civil, for example, something like:
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> > > I didn't understand his reaction towards this woman considering the state she was in when she wrote that letter, and I tried to explain that to him so he would understand why.
>
> Bob
Isn't this just hacking on details on peoples way of expressing themselves? If "I saw his attack towards this woman as very harsh and cruel" (which is past tense and do not imply that the person still think so)and "I didn't understand his reaction towards this woman considering the state she was in when she wrote that letter, and I tried to explain that to him so he would understand why" (which is a very elaborate way of saying almost the same thing, just sifting out negative sounding words like harsh and cruel).Are you sayng that being civil means excluding words with negative content?
And wouldn't being so spesific in how you want people to phrase themselves lead to excluding people that is not so good in expressing themselves and finding the right words?
If you really want to be strict, then if "I" said "I just wanted to explain this to him so he would understand why" could imply that "I" think the person is stupid since he doesn't understand (he doesn't understand this so he must be stuoid and I must make sure he understand it because I am smarter than him and it's my duty to teach him blablabla)
Isn't the matter of civilness being pulled a bit too far soon?
poster:Sad Sara
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