Posted by gardenergirl on July 27, 2008, at 11:53:38
In reply to Re: private communications » gardenergirl, posted by twinleaf on July 27, 2008, at 11:14:16
> There were delightful, playful, affectionate moments mixed in with serious ones. I still think back on those times with a lot of joy and pleasure. They were helpful in therapy- and in life.
I miss that tone and interaction, too.
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> No-one cares how hurtful it may be, .We really don't know who may or may not care. Absence of words does not mean there is absence of thoughts. And with the apparent new policy (I assume it's still being followed) of admin only attending to potentionally actionable posts after receiving a notification from a member, I think fewer posts which someone might find hurtful are being flagged by admin. But that doesn't negate hurt, and I'm sorry for yours here.
> but I'm also hopeful that the poster in question will self-monitor a bit. She has a lot to offer, and that will be much clearer if she posts just somewhat less.
Thanks for taking time to comment on my other post. I agree that posts which contain shining gems of support can seem lost among a large number of, well, let's say simpler posts. But that shining gem is still there. We don't have any idea who and how many it may help and have helped. Still, the volume of posts does increase the likelihood that it could be overlooked, I guess.
About changing behaviors...I strongly believe that we feel the most freedom and ability to change when we are accepted and accept ourselves just as we are first--not just "warts and all", I think, but especially the warts. Feeling at ease in one's own skin, accepting the whole of one's self, and feeling accepted and loved by others just for being...what a strong foundation to take risks, don't you think?
Oh, and from a leadership or marketing frame, I think it's important to get "buy-in" from the person or persons in question in order to be most effective.
'course, I'm the one who's always being told I'm idealistic and not practical enough, and there's a lot of both tied up in this.
You don't happen to watch "Dr. Who", I think on the SciFi channel, do you? I know next to nothing about it, but I was sort of watching it with my hubby last night. The antagonists in this episode, the Daleks, would encounter humans and most often say, "Hostility will not be tolerated. Exterminate! Exterminate! Exterminate!" Wowsa, now that's a really scary kind of "please be civil", eh? I think I need a sign that says, "Monkey brain at work, please be patient." Anywhoo, I couldn't figure out where else I could work that into a post and I didn't want to start a new thread just for my silly associations. So, er, here's your bonus with post? :)
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