Posted by Dr. Bob on January 24, 2007, at 1:04:44
In reply to Re: HFs block - related questions, posted by ElaineM on January 23, 2007, at 15:15:50
> 1.
> I was just confused cause I couldn't find any of the aforementioned warnings to be civil that she is said to have received.We don't always re-warn each time. I'd like them just to remember after the first time.
> 2.
> I'm trying to see how the use of "feel" was perhaps not delivered in a civil way and wonder if she should have said "She feels harassed when..." rather than saying another's actions were harassment?Right, if I say something about my feelings, that's an I-statement, but if I say something about another's actions, that's a them-statement.
> But then, if it's not alright to say what she said, "I felt like the subject of harassment" isn't that the same as saying, "I felt harassed..."?
> Is that feeling-word not allowed altogether? Cause other words are similar, for example, "ignored" (which many of us have used) implies there is an ignorer, the same as feeling "harassed" implies that there's a harasser.It's close, but not exactly the same. If I say I feel ignored, that doesn't necessarily imply you're an ignorer, maybe you just didn't hear me. See also:
http://www.dr-bob.org/babble/admin/20040112/msgs/320097.html
Bob
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