Posted by ElaineM on December 29, 2006, at 9:34:41
In reply to Re: Would it be helpful or even possible/poss *tri, posted by NikkiT2 on December 29, 2006, at 3:45:47
((((NikkiT2)))
That would be a theoretical example of the type of turn in a situation that I'm trying to express my views about above -- when an *individual reaction* becomes a *threat* (not just in general) but to a *member of the community*. To me, even "If my aunt doesn't...I swear I will..." is worlds apart from, "If you/he/she *HERE* don't....I will..." And I'm confused that that could be considered within the civility guidelines, when someone could get blocked for implying something about a (relatively) less loaded subject.
To me, even modifying the phrasing by saying only "*maybe* I will harm myself if they....", or, "I'll *feel* like I'll harm myself if he/she...." is completely irrelevant. The part that I feel matters most is the "IF a community member" part. I think the "if" (stated or implied) connotes the "threat". I think it ascribes personal blame for one's behaviour to someone else -- which I feel is uncivil. And I think threats try to place responsibility for the results of an interaction on one person more than the other. But whatever.
I fear I don't explain myself well, but you seem much more succinct in your posts.
I'm sorry you've come to care less and less.
blove, EL
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