Posted by capricorn on October 17, 2006, at 10:06:08
In reply to Re: Blocks, hurt, and sociopaths » capricorn, posted by gardenergirl on October 16, 2006, at 23:27:14
> I think you bring up an important issue, though I'd probably separate emotion from behavior. But I think I understand what you are saying.
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> Is there any way you could somehow let us know when things are getting rough for you, and maybe let us know how we could help or otherwise support you?
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> gg
Have you ever comsidered the option of a 'resting room' forum where you can voluntarily put yourself if you are losing it or just don't feel up to the main forums or can be put in by site owner/mods. You can sound off there but don't have access to other areas.Other people can choose to 'visit' you in there but for the purpose of being supportive rather than tearing you off a strip or two.I think there needs to be a distinction between various faux pas ie there is a qualitative difference between expressing an honestly held view that falls foul of the 'I statement' ethos of these boards,going off on one because you are emotionally volatile/manic etc but you are not generally a bad person,and cold and calculated trolling.
Even when ok i tend to find the 'I statement' policy rather daunting and in my opinion feel that
there is a danger of alienating or 'demonising'(for want of a better word) otherwise
decent people by blocking them for the failure to
get to grips with it.
In effect people are admonished/punished for what is an 'error of presentation' rather than necessarily intended malice.Sometimes it is important to remember that the quality of the wine inside the decanter is more important than the quality of the decanter itself.
Indeed if too much time is spent worrying over the
decanter less wine will be enjoyed.
poster:capricorn
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