Posted by Dinah on October 7, 2006, at 11:14:38
In reply to Re: reasons that sound identical, but aren't, posted by alexandra_k on October 7, 2006, at 1:03:58
Sometimes....
Sometimes I don't always understand why you feel the way you feel about something. But I think something like "I don't really understand this, but I know Alex, and so I know if she feels this way there must be a reason for it, and I'm going to try to respect that reason." I think I've even tried to explain this thought process to you on occasion.
I guess I'm a bit hurt that you don't think something like "This seems like the same thing to me, and I don't understand how Dinah and gg see it as two different things. But I do trust Dinah and gg, and so I trust that they're just interpreting things differently than I am and that this isn't the same thing to them as it is to me. And although they can't explain it in such a way that it seems obvious to me, it does appear obvious to them. Since we're all three decent and reasonably intelligent people, it must be possible for decent and reasonably intelligent people to see this topic differently, even if if we can't reach consensus."
The above might not be possible or desirable for you, because you interpret things differently than I do, or have a different set of expectations and life circumstances. So it remains just my wish, not something I need consensus on from you. Because I think you're a decent intelligent person, and if you see this disagreement in a different way than I do, it must be possible for decent intelligent people to disagree on the topic of disagreement.
poster:Dinah
thread:690598
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