Posted by Estella on May 11, 2006, at 20:24:30
In reply to verne's block » Estella, posted by gardenergirl on May 11, 2006, at 13:31:04
> It appeared to me that another section of the post was not about/directed to just you, per se. Thus, if one is considering whether a person could feel accused or put down by verne's post, there are more "people in Bob's head" as you've put it ;) than just the person the post replied to, in this case you.
Right. I suppose that people *might* feel offended.
What was Verne saying?
My understanding... The thing that really sticks out for me...
Is that he feels like an outsider here.
He doesn't really feel like part of things.
He interprets the support
As being negatively directed
Against the person who is disagreeing with the person who is offering support.
And so he thinks the support is phoneyAnd yet...
He must want to fit in to a certain degree 'cause he is / was still here...
Maybe Verne isn't so clear on how much he is seeing the boards the way they "really" are vs how much he is projecting out on to the boards.He gets blocked because he didn't get that distinction hence he thought the boards were a certain way hence he says things out of anger...
And people could help him...
Or maybe they don't get the distinction either
Hence they might well feel all offended
And try and get Verne blocked.:-(
(This isn't meant to be unsupportive of gg I'm just trying to say something about why I think a block harms more than helps in this kind of situation. Couldn't deputies (and other posters) step in and try and help so that others are less likely to feel offended? So that a hurting person doesn't have to be blocked? And how long is he going to get for that anyway? What if I said that other posters being blocked... Is something that offends and hurts me?)
And when Verne comes back (if he comes back) then what has he learned?
He has learned that he has to shut the hell up if he wants to not get blocked. And hence IMHO he is even more likely to lash out and rebel.
Because sometimes people prefer pre emptive strike to hanging ones head to ones likely fate
And again... How is this helping?
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