Posted by Jakeman on March 15, 2006, at 21:19:46
In reply to Re: Why did ED_UK Get Blocked? » Jakeman, posted by Gabbix2 on March 15, 2006, at 20:53:34
Gabbix,
Thanks for your response. But I'm still not clear about this, please excuse my being slow.
If I say, "I thought you were rather unkind"
is that uncivil?I want to dismiss myself from this thread. I find it maddening. It takes up too much of my life. At the same time, I want to get some resolution about this point in case me or others want to post something in the future.
I do feel that we are splitting hairs at this point. I'm totally against put-downs and personal attacks. If anyone was really offended by Ed's statements I hope they will say so.
warm regards ~Jake
> No, that's one hoop that trips up many, many for a long long time ; )
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> For instance, if that were an okay "I" statement, then it mean it would also be okay to say "I think you are stupid"
> "I feel you're an idiot"
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> An *I* statement according to the rules of the site, means you describe how you felt about what was said.
> "I felt, hurt, slighted, insulted"
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> "I think you are rude, or a jerk"
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> That's really hard, because sometimes it's not the truth.
> Sometimes someone is purposely trying to get your goat, and you're allowed to say "I feel hurt by that"
> But often you're not hurt, you're just really bugged.
> But you could say "That really annoys me"
> or "I'm really disgusted by that"
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> As long as you don't say "That was disgusting"
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> I hope I described that okay.
> They aren't really as limiting as it might seem at first.
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