Posted by 838 on March 8, 2006, at 4:07:54
In reply to Re: civility, posted by Dr. Bob on March 7, 2006, at 23:55:57
> It's not always easy to handle hurt in a mature way. Some people just leave. I'd prefer for them not to feel hurt in the first place.
:-( You think people would leave over what I said?
> It's necessary to have some rules.I've never questioned that...
>Having rules means making judgments. Making judgments means deciding that some posts are against the rules. Deciding that posts are against the rules hurts those posters. Ergo, unfortunately, it's necessary to hurt some posters.
Yeah but... Typically I don't have a problem with the warnings / blockings. This time I did. I don't know whether I would be having such a problem if that blocking happened to another poster or not. I don't know. I feel too personally involved so I can't say...
I am still having trouble with my post being interpreted in that way :-(
But I never meant to say that PBC's / blockings were a bad thing in general...
Though... For regular posters who are typically supportive - and who try and be civil... I don't think the block lengths should stack up the way they do at present.
Because it is kind of like... The longer you are here... The longer the blocks get. I used to think that it was a matter of people either learning from their errors or deserving longer blocks. But I'm having trouble here. Maybe I'm just stupid... I dunno... I never meant to hurt. And... Did I hurt? I don't think so...
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